It’s been two weeks since I announced that Men Yell at Me is moving over to Patreon.

🎧 And since the move, I launched a Dingus of the Week podcast. You can listen to it wherever you find your podcasts. You can also watch the video here.

✍️ I’ve written about the art heist, authenticity and politics, Josh Hawley’s idea of manhood, and reclaiming frogs from the fascists.

👑 Also, like a prosperity gospel preacher, I’ve named and claimed dinguses like Trump’s big ballroom, and the Young Republican group chat.

If you haven’t yet made the move, it’s very easy, I promise. All you have to do is search your email for an email that begins “Claim your free months…” Find that. Click on the link in the email, and let’s go.

That offer of free months ends on Nov 4. SO CLICK NOW!

You can also just click on this link. (But I recommend finding the email so you can get some free months at a paid level.)

And listen, I hear you…

But Lyz! One more platform? I simply cannot! I get it. I, too, have platform fatigue, and one of the reasons I wanted to move from Substack was because, as a platform, it’s moving to be more of another Twitter than a functional newsletter space. Five minutes to transfer and you can be on the peace of Patreon. And the newsletter will be reliably in your inbox, and you won’t have to worry about the app.

I can’t afford another subscription! Once again, I get it. Which is why the MAJORITY of my content has always been free and easy to access. You just have to sign up to make sure you never miss anything. The Wednesday essay, the Dingus of the Week newsletter, and the podcast are all free. And will always be free.

But over on Patreon, I have some new features for paying subscribers. There will be 1-2 deep dives a month that are for the paid tiers, the Sunday links, and more.

FINE! But, who else is over there? I am so glad you asked, Virginia Sole Smith moved her newsletter and so did Anne Helen Petersen! And others will be moving as well soon.

Don’t miss out! Your moving offer ends soon.

Also, did I mention, DINGUS OF THE WEEK PODCAST!!??

Welcome to MYAM, now on Patreon.🎉 If you are not a paying member, let me tell you what you missed this week. You missed a deep dive into the masculinity of Missouri Sen. Josh Hawley, and some incredible chats in the MYAM forums.

➡️ You can read all about why I made the move and the new features here.

✉️ If you haven’t yet made the move over, check your email for an email titled “Claim Your Free Months to Men Yell at Me on Patreon.” If you have any trouble with the move, please fill out this form.

Read the Dingus on Patreon

This is a preview of the Dingus of the Week. To read the whole thing, go over to Patreon. I’m serious, git out of her!

This week, Politico published a story revealing chats from leaders of Young Republican groups in which they joked about slavery and professed their love for Adolf Hitler. (It’s important to use his first name so we don’t get him confused with the other Hitler.)

And that’s just the PG stuff. Members of the chat talked about raping their opponents. According to Politico’s report, one particular Young Republicans vice chair used the N-word a lot. And as Politico reported, another member of the chat, “who at the time was chair of the same organization, wrote in a message sent in June that “everyone that votes no is going to the gas chamber.”

That member “was referring to an upcoming vote on whether he should become chair of the Young Republican National Federation, the GOP’s 15,000-member political organization for Republicans between 18 and 40 years old.”

So, breaking news: A bunch of amoebic sacs of vanilla pudding sent the exact kind of texts you’d expect them to send: racist ones.

Oh my god — a collection of sentient phlegm behaved in a disgusting manner? What in the pleated-front khaki is going on here!?

➡️ Read the rest of the Dingus of the Week on Patreon.

🚚 Yesterday, I announced that MYAM is moving to Patreon! For more on why I am moving, you can read all about it over on Patreon. Please check your email for an email titled, “Claim your free months to Men Yell at Me on Patreon” for a link to help you switch over your subscription. Already 1/3 of you have moved with me, thank you!

I would not make this move if I didn’t feel like it was the right thing for this newsletter and the community. So I know it’s a pain, but it will be worth it.

And now, here is a preview of this week’s Wednesday newsletter.

You can read the full thing FOR FREE on Patreon.

What do you do in a country where facts don’t matter?

What do you do in an America where reality is fake and the lie is the reality? What do you do when an authoritarian government insists that they and they alone know the truth? What do you do when people want to believe their own lies so much they lie to themselves?

There are a lot of things you can do. Fact-checking feels futile, but it is a necessary step. Supporting the voices that do tell the truth doesn’t hurt, either.

But also, sometimes the best way to counteract a false narrative is to put on a frog costume, get out in the streets, and dance.

In the face of the president’s lies, protesters in Portland have donned inflatable costumes and held dance parties. It’s hard to manipulate images of a person dancing in a puffy unicorn outfit into something fearsome and scary…

Read on Patreon

You can read the rest of this week’s Wednesday newsletter for free on Patreon.

After five years on this site, it is time to move on.

I am leaving Substack for Patreon.

Why?

➡️ Well, go over to Patreon to read all about it. My first Patreon newsletter is a reflection on my 20-year career in media and how I got here. It’s also about why I didn’t move from Substack before, as so many of you have asked me to do. And why I’m moving now. It is also why I don’t think just abandoning spaces is the right answer all the time.

Read MYAM on Patreon

And now for a little business

If you’re a paid subscriber: As of Monday, October 12, I’ve paused your billing on Substack, so going forward you won’t be charged.

But we do need you to come re-join us on Patreon to keep your paid access going. So, check your email for the link.

And as a thank you for all your support, I am gifting all current Substack subscribers FREE ACCESS on Patreon.

⚠️ Important note:

• Check your email for details on claiming your access

• Having an issue redeeming your free access? → Submit Here

Let me assure you, this newsletter will always continue to be a political newsletter written with a feminist slant that sits at the intersection of patriarchy and politics in red state America.

This place will always feel like sitting down on a porch with your best friend over a glass of whiskey and ranting about the state of the world and finding joy in the fight. It will continue to be personal, political, sometimes funny, and will always raise hell.

And it will always have the best community on the internet. Because you are here.

But what is changing is that there will be new features, more content, a new podcast, new premium content, and so much more.

My first premium newsletter for subscribers at the $10/month level will be about Josh Hawley and manhood and will be published on Thursday. So make sure you are signed up!

So, head over to Patreon!

My Patreon will offer newer, more affordable content tiers. And also tech support! If you need help, you can fill out this form and, I, or someone from the Patreon team, will get back to you.

What’s included on Patreon?

The membership includes two paid tiers, plus a free membership option.

Free Membership

• 2 x Newsletters (per week): Wednesdays + Fridays

• 1 x Dingus of the Week Podcast Episode (per week): My brand new podcast!

👑Not a Dingus ($5/month)

• 3 x Newsletters (per week): Get ONE extra newsletter per week (2 free + 1 paid member-only). Access my weekly Sunday paid subscriber newsletter.

• 1 x Dingus of the Week Podcast Episode (per week): My brand new podcast!

• Comment Access: Ability to comment on all content

• Access to all past newsletters

👑👑Definitely not a Dingus ($10/month)

• 3 x Newsletters (per week): Get ONE extra newsletter per week (2 free + 1 paid member-only). Access my weekly Sunday paid subscriber newsletter.

• 2 x Special Newsletter (per month): Deeper reporting and personal essays. The format and content may shift over time as I experiment with different ideas.

• 1 x Dingus of the Week Podcast Episode (per week): My brand new podcast!

• Exclusive Content Extra: A mix of special content that might include Q&As, recommendations, and more. I’ll use this space to try out different formats and ideas

• Polls & Topic Submissions: Help shape upcoming content — nominate Dingus of the Week candidates, suggest topics for the podcast and newsletter, vote on ideas, and more.

• Chat Communities: Access my new Patreon chat rooms, Flyover Discord. Connect with other members and discuss your favorite topics.

• Weekly Discussion Topic: A place to talk about the news and other burning topics with the best community on the internet (no Nazi’s allowed)

• Comment Access: Ability to comment on all content

• Access to all past newsletters

Questions?

If you have any questions → Submit here

I’ll get back to you shortly!

Thank you for being here. I’m so grateful for your support, and can’t wait for the next five years.

But seriously, go over to Patreon now.

Last year, I was interviewed by Maria Shriver on “The Today Show.” She had read my book This American Ex-Wife, after reading about it in The Atlantic, and her team reached out to get me booked for the show. The date was in the middle of my kids’ spring break, and when I asked if there was a different date they could book me, the producer paused before saying, “This is the day Maria is available, you should make yourself available. And bring your kids.” And so I did.

You can watch the interview online.

My favorite moment was after the cameras turned off, when Maria pulled me behind the set while the Indigo Girls played. She had something she wanted to ask me.

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